That being said, her handling of gender stuff was pretty rough, but still that was pretty understandable and I didn’t make it easy at first. And I think that’s where I get caught up with criticizing her. Even if I can finally get around to denouncing an action or behavior,

I write it off as understandable. And I would let it fester, and then blow up about issues, to which then the conversation would focus on my presentation. Lol if there’s one thing I would undeniably attribute to her the the skill of avoiding responsibility.

Quite impressive, but also pretty frustrating haha. I’m not sure why that’s humorous to me or makes me smile, it should be pretty bad, no? Her apologies sucked and definitely reinforced ideas that things were exclusively my fault. If I wasn’t so willing to hold the bag, it def

Would have caused problems. We also had pretty different approaches to conflict. She would take no shit from anyone, and I would usually let myself get trampled over for a while and explain it away. But sometimes I just couldn’t take it and exploded, and if no responsibility

Continued, it would make me pretty angry. At that point I think I would overextend and be too aggressive, and she would just absolutely shut down. I never felt like my concerns were adequately heard I think. I would let patterns of behavior slide for a while, and then would get

Told that I was crazy for reacting how I was, that it was no big deal. I really didn’t like that, and then everything would devolve and she would end up crying and do the classic “ok I’m sorry it’s ALL my fault” trash - not to excuse my actions, they sucked, I just never got