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Ok so my mom told me things that Gail texted her when I was over for my birthday, and I need to process it. 2 big things:1 she wanted to text me about birthday but wanted to keep rules we set, and 2her expectations have become more “realistic” and she doesn’t need to live in cali
2 is kinda weird, mom introduced it as she doesn’t care about living in cali anymore, but that is not the vibe I got when she read it out quote (I didn’t ask for her to read out, she just did, I will touch on soon) felt like she really deeply cares about cali but is willing to
Compromise for other coast stuff (including east coast??? LMFAO) she’s in cali rn for context btw. Really don’t know what to make of it. Her mom and brother are thinking about moving there, so maybe them talking about the realities confronted her with challenges?
Idk, the other thing is like should I even care about this? Like why do I care about it? My mom was all giggly and excited to tell me things, and it was clear she is hopeful for getting back together. Idk what to think about that.
Like I love her for sure, she’s super cool. I was going to say “but I have to be sure I’m not just sticking with what I know just bc comfy and scared of change” but idk if that makes sense. Like in some ways true, but it also assumes a few things, including monogamy
And like realistically it’s not like I’m really interested in having multiple partners (seems like so much work) but also I’d like not to be limited. Was going to say “But yeah I feel very confident Gail is monogamy person” but that might not be fair either. I feel like sometimes
I put words in her mouth unfairly so I shouldn’t do that. But yeah idk like I feel like it would be healthy to date some other people, including guys, just to be like yeah this is what I want. Ideally that dating around wouldnt be exclusive with getting back together with her,
But in reality yknow? And it’s interesting my mom told her about some of the stuff I’ve been up to and she was shocked, we both have changed and idk about the causality on that. Like in some ways I feel being apart has been really healthy for my personal development, in a
Knowing myself way. Like sure I’ve just partly spent a bunch of time in classes or reading theory lol, but I found an interest in education which is cool. Gay stuff has changed a bit too. I think I often focused on it or played it up to demonstrate like hey this is real I’m valid