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Also had really good and long convo with Ryno too :) I really like him
It was really nice esp after that thread I made the other day talking about “authenticity”. Ryno is still p awk lol but I was able to express myself in a way I was comfortable with, without feeling like I was pressured into a performance (not that anyone ever really explicitly
Pressures performance, more that it’s self policing) but yeah was really nice to transition from that mode with him. Still don’t fully understand how that transition happens, I think there’s a moment where enough chemistry happens in convo (not chemistry exclusive to “romantic”
relations to be clear) where genuine bits slip out and goes from there. Also moments with some effort as well, like just saying fuck it and sending something more out of comfort zone. Also helps when interlocutor is also perceived as being genuine and open as well, talking about
How they feel or personal things. Usually I’m not good at probing and stuff but idk I was motivated ig bc I enjoy talking w Ryno, and also realized (from what I could tell) is fine with talking too but is just awkward lol
I think it was an important confidence boost, and I’m even feeling better going out today and being more comfortable acting fem (not femme bc that is problematic!) that little social reinforcement is really important, humans are odd and cute