hm this pattern is actually extremely prevalent in my past, socially tolerating people and situations i don’t like until i snap back into relative isolation. it happened with work friends (C exercise weekend) and discord randos (tons of ghosted dms after actual years of interaction)

and overwatch people (they keep up with one another in a server and the minute we weren’t a team anymore i stopped caring)

idrk if i have much to say about it rn other than it’s a repeated pattern. i think i got a little off track with overwatch ppl, or at least it’s a only tangential, because i did enjoy the direct time spent together, while the thing im describing is tolerating unwelcome/unenjoyable relationships

but that just reinforces my posited thesis that the furthest i can take it back to is that post-hibernation period. i think it’s interesting since that is the time i first sought out sociality for its own sake intentionally instead of letting it come to me

hm i actually think the discord example is more instructive than i thought, because that was during hibernation right? like that informed my way of approaching ppl, where i would entertain the interaction just to see what that person was like

but that gets pretty boring after a while when you’re familiar with their schtick and don’t care for it much