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envy as dyadic and jealousy as triadic is appealingly simple and harmonious but i think there might be some challenging edge cases
maybe it's slightly mistaken or simplistic. it's more about possession vs attention, the personhood is basically a red herring
gratitude is lauded as the remedy for envy but i have my doubts. it's still self-diminishing and accommodating oneself to taking pride in mediocrity. i suppose that's an envious persons mentality. it could be seen as replacing a sense of lacked possession with an appreciation for current possessions
idk it just feels like a misdirection rather than a proper remedy. it has the air of a bad spiral of powerlessness, which makes sense because it is a christian virtue after all
and yknow maybe it's right that it is a cure for envy, it's just that sometimes you should not run away from productive envy
i guess this also doesn't address the fantasy nature of envy but that also feels like a strategy for misdirection and as a reassurance that there is no necessity to change
i also think like, jealousy as frustration with another's attention has a lot more going for it than it normally gets credit for. mostly because the cultural forms it continually finds itself bound to are grotesque