tessa's just cautious with revealing herself and prefers slumber parties to the spotlight. i'm sure you'll meet her some day if you stick around

this of course isn't a unique complaint, although there's a reason i kinda leave them unacknowledged. they are entirely valid criticisms but for conversions i'm not interested in having (with this audience, in this context)

yes that's awfully convenient for me, and i don't blame anyone for finding it unimpressively grating, but i also don't really have any interest in being a doctrinaire or making myself understood to everyone

it's also somewhat a matter of what discursive norms are deemed acceptable, and part of my reticence to broadcast my views is that their form often violate folks' expectations

overall the kind of conversations i find generative are predicated upon a fair amount of trust and suspension and while that's understandably frustrating for everyone else, i'm okay with that for now

like the people i'm really tight with are familiar with my recurring positions, evaluations, temperaments, dispositions, orienting metaphors, allegories, whatever. and while yea there's plenty of polishing that can be done to make them fit for public consumption, something gets lost in that process