.: "Missing or wanting to catch up, even if not in a way that would not imply a more serious life partnership. I think it’s only fair for her to have that ability to talk when she’s ready, and if she never decides she wants to, that’s alright too."

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.May 13, 2021

I’ve thought about this for a bit and I think I’ve decided that I won’t be contacting Gail first, even after the break time we’ve set is up. This space is a lot more for her than me, and I need to respect that. It would be selfish for me to message her out of me

.@disheveled.diary.dreary.dev

Missing or wanting to catch up, even if not in a way that would not imply a more serious life partnership. I think it’s only fair for her to have that ability to talk when she’s ready, and if she never decides she wants to, that’s alright too.

May 13, 2021 at 11:06 PM

.May 13, 2021

Would I personally want to talk before then? Yeah absolutely she was my best friend for years and theres so much already id love to talk with her about, but I don’t think that’s my place honestly.

.May 13, 2021

My goal is to respect her needs in this, as I think that’s more important than what I’d get out. I won’t lie I’ve fantasized a bunch of times about what and how I’d message her, but now I just don’t think that’s right.

.May 13, 2021

I might **might** message just to say like I’m down to talk if you want, but be clear that there are no expectations, even to reply. Like I wouldn’t want her to think I was avoiding/frustrated/arrogant. I haven’t decided, but her feelings and consent are the most important here.