.: "Would I personally want to talk before then? Yeah absolutely she was my best friend for years and theres so much already id love to talk with her about, but I don’t think that’s my place honestly."

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.May 13, 2021

I’ve thought about this for a bit and I think I’ve decided that I won’t be contacting Gail first, even after the break time we’ve set is up. This space is a lot more for her than me, and I need to respect that. It would be selfish for me to message her out of me

.May 13, 2021

Missing or wanting to catch up, even if not in a way that would not imply a more serious life partnership. I think it’s only fair for her to have that ability to talk when she’s ready, and if she never decides she wants to, that’s alright too.

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Would I personally want to talk before then? Yeah absolutely she was my best friend for years and theres so much already id love to talk with her about, but I don’t think that’s my place honestly.

May 13, 2021 at 11:06 PM

.May 13, 2021

My goal is to respect her needs in this, as I think that’s more important than what I’d get out. I won’t lie I’ve fantasized a bunch of times about what and how I’d message her, but now I just don’t think that’s right.

.May 13, 2021

I might **might** message just to say like I’m down to talk if you want, but be clear that there are no expectations, even to reply. Like I wouldn’t want her to think I was avoiding/frustrated/arrogant. I haven’t decided, but her feelings and consent are the most important here.