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this vid was p good overall, obv had some funky stuff too but one cool thing was asking kid
"Hey do you wanna do x thing/event?"
If yes, "Do you want me to 'force' you to go if you decide you don't feel like it in the moment?"
https://youtu.be/Q-tiTTvkHpw
If yes, next morning "Did you like that I 'forced' you to go?"
like very interesting way to approach things and the temporality of decision-making
definitely depends on what "force" means here, and i dont even think dr k was saying like physically force maybe just extra pressure
but i think like even asking the question fleshes out the structure of the interaction while leaving room for things to be non-hierarchical. like this seems like a co-determined choice
SPEAKING OF WHICH
the definition of "the capability to co-determine" as a definition of autonomy is fucking fantastic (from Screw Consent)
the co-determination need non be actualized! but the capability is there which leaves plenty of room for flexible arrangements. that shit is so fucking cool
if i ever had kids and had a disagreement with them I would love to like sit down and explain where I'm getting my ideas from so then they can be like "oh i see where youre coming from but I interpret this concept differently" or like "this framework falls short here" or w/e
that is very idealistic maybe and maybe even infantilizing/paternalistic like here look at my great ideas they come from a book so it would def depend on how it was carried out but idk thats like a compelling thing for me that i could demonstrate where my ideas are coming from
and be critiqued as to how im living up to them