If yes, next morning "Did you like that I 'forced' you to go?" like very interesting way to approach things and the temporality of decision-making definitely depends on what "force" means here, and i dont even think dr k was saying like physically force maybe just extra pressure

but i think like even asking the question fleshes out the structure of the interaction while leaving room for things to be non-hierarchical. like this seems like a co-determined choice

SPEAKING OF WHICH the definition of "the capability to co-determine" as a definition of autonomy is fucking fantastic (from Screw Consent)

and i think if the "capability" part is incorporated here then a lot of cool shit can happen. like

the co-determination need non be actualized! but the capability is there which leaves plenty of room for flexible arrangements. that shit is so fucking cool

if i ever had kids and had a disagreement with them I would love to like sit down and explain where I'm getting my ideas from so then they can be like "oh i see where youre coming from but I interpret this concept differently" or like "this framework falls short here" or w/e