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i wonder if there’s any good feminist literature on pragmatism and sympathy
what i have in mind specifically is the circumstance where a problematic situation arises for person A that doesn’t have any grip on person B and how they can navigate that
at least in my experience, sometimes the most beneficial thing person B can do is express their disinterest bluntly, in a way that snaps person A out of their self-importance and rumination, thereby inducing a reframing. that doesn’t always work tho and it’s risky
problematic situations by their nature of not necessarily arriving at solutions (as i’ve said before i like “compromises”) are somewhat likely to recur after dissolving, and the interpersonal affects that gives rise to are really thorny
rephrasing of the above: you had worked through an issue previously to a stable enough place to where it’s no longer a direct pressing concern in your life, but then it comes back, maybe in a modified form. there’s no reason the past method of handling it will be adequate this time, so it’s not
just a settled issue once and for all. beyond the emotions directly related to the issue at hand, you and the people around you that help you navigate the world will have feelings about the very fact of recurrence, which will influence this new compromise