this is precisely the reason i was reluctant about the limerence literature, because this often seems either a) forgotten and messily ill-distinguished or b) crowds out discussion of differentiated obsession or infatuation
i've also talked about in the past that i LOVE when people make statements about me. the attention and attribution and it always feels intimate and connected and insightful
the specific point i wanna related to that that is around projective identification and consensus-seeking and how it feels like one of the most powerful ways i can meld together with someone