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willow
timeless classic
willowFeb 19, 2025
https://ungratefulhyenas.noblogs.org/files/2021/04/KilltheCoupleinyourHead_READ-1.0.pdf kill the couple in your head https://dreary.dev/politics/#relationship-anarchy Oftentimes, anarchists like to fool themselves into thinking they have escaped the clutches of the Couple by proliferating its logic - polyamory is taken for free love. We disagree. This framework leaves the form of the Couple intact and creates an entire economy of energy and affection to manage it. Polyamory is neoliberal monogamy. Countless rebranded models have emerged, desperate to adapt the logic of intimate control to the queer free market by suggesting that we can find liberation by expanding our spheres of control and domination. The "primary partner", with their "secondaries" is an easy hierarchy to critique, but the fundamental logic of polyamory is that we each have a finite quantity of energy (i.e. love) that is to be meted out according to negotiations within the respective couple units. We are all managers in the worker co-op of love! The idea that another's jealousy can be addressed by managing my relation with someone else is a convenient way to avoid facing the fear of death and abandonment we all struggle with due to the artificial scarcity and very real isolation of society.
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@dreary.bsky.social
always saying this
willowFeb 19, 2025
https://ungratefulhyenas.noblogs.org/files/2021/04/KilltheCoupleinyourHead_READ-1.0.pdf kill the couple in your head https://dreary.dev/politics/#relationship-anarchy Oftentimes, anarchists like to fool themselves into thinking they have escaped the clutches of the Couple by proliferating its logic - polyamory is taken for free love. We disagree. This framework leaves the form of the Couple intact and creates an entire economy of energy and affection to manage it. Polyamory is neoliberal monogamy. Countless rebranded models have emerged, desperate to adapt the logic of intimate control to the queer free market by suggesting that we can find liberation by expanding our spheres of control and domination. The "primary partner", with their "secondaries" is an easy hierarchy to critique, but the fundamental logic of polyamory is that we each have a finite quantity of energy (i.e. love) that is to be meted out according to negotiations within the respective couple units. We are all managers in the worker co-op of love! The idea that another's jealousy can be addressed by managing my relation with someone else is a convenient way to avoid facing the fear of death and abandonment we all struggle with due to the artificial scarcity and very real isolation of society.