my discomfort with things is very grating and whiny and distended

i think it's usually a lack of confidence in that discomfort and rather weak ability to understand it. sometimes that unconfidence is appropriate but then i'm tempted to say its unclear why im speaking on it, to which the obvious rejoinder is that i have to struggle with it and misstep first

to arrive at understanding worth confidence. that's not sufficient but its a step. the other case is where i could stand to be a little more confident in which case i still lack clarity of self but again thinking out loud can kinda be helpful. sometimes that expression is counterproductive tho