sometimes i think it's okay for me to whine unqualifiedly, i can tend to suppress my own emotions or over-rationalise them and get myself into trouble, it often ends in inexpressive frustration because i lock myself into being too careful
i would feel bad about muen leaving without getting a proper goodbye but she's kind of a terrible communicator and not actually very interested in me nowadays
real power users don't try to change anything upstream they just solve their own problems (and ideally have enough shame that they don't tell anyone about their ugly hacks)