like ultimately im super charitable to gender abolition but like bruh if you only invoke that type of thinking when xenogender / nbs are speaking up then?? lmao wtf. if you genuinely are upset by that, then you should be just as mad (if not more!) at cis people practicing their

gender. I get that you might be concerned with the praxis of xenogender stuff but idk

also i think this is hard bc theyre kinda talking about public people doing this and my personal experience i actually feel pretty ashamed of my gender stuff and it feels intensely personal and embarrassing and vulnerable so i dont have that impulse at all

so its possible theyre conflating or im conflating the critiques but i think theres a distinction to be made. also to be clear I could probably search for the exact right xenogender stuff for me bc i dont see any point and am quite disillusioned about personal authenticity

but i think thats pretty rare for most people and is an undue burden for most ppl trying to figure out their shit in a gendered world. not to mention that also contributes to my personal and ashamed nature about the topic, bc i dont use labels and dont even like pronouns,

my experience is entirely alien to people and i have no way of simply communicating how i feel. so i can absolutely sympathize with people being like hey this is a way i can conceptualize myself in a world where thats basically required to communicate and exist