she’s just been hunched over the whole time and nobody noticed

prolly a couple dozen more

well its completely accurate, with the caveat that the alt is run by one of taylor's ace alters

i did not realize sabrina carpenter and taylor swift were the same person until today

another day of skylights terrorism complete (i imported my anilist entries)

(would be more but tmdb didn't have everyting)

she's literally a lyrical genius: You used a fork once It turns out forks are fuckin' everywhere There’s no hiding from the thought of us I got ways to find you anywhere www.youtube.com/watch?v=_odQ...

PLEASE MISS ONCE QUEEN

no fuckin way

when my time's up, baby i'll leak some pictures maybe say somethin' batshit crazy i'll do it, don't you make me

today i will listen to sabrina's discography

alternatively i will listen to nightcore4life's complete discography

so please... don't cut the ribbon so easily.

Wh- Why did you do that!? Eh? Well. Didn't you like this ribbon? We can just tie it again. But... But it wouldn't return to the way it was before. Isn't that okay? Even if it's not the same... Even if it looks different, isn't that interesting too? And... it's not like the color will change.

using “mononormative” over “amatonormative” is kinda a red flag tbh

like yeah they aren’t the same thing, there’s a venn diagram here, but that’s kinda my point. loveless monosexual expectations are excluded but i’m okay with that because the scoping is all wrong in the first place

like yea you can try and stretch the former to cover the latter’s bases but it’s just really missing the crux of the issue, and it lends itself to inattentiveness to the ways in which poly folks reproduce the same logics

okay so i read the 'polysecure' book just for fun and it's unfortunately exactly what i anticipated it would be

the attachment theory stuff is fine and good, even neat sometimes when contextualized to non-monog, but at the end of the day it's still like pop psych attachment theory lol. that's easily the book at it's best tbh, and it's also the least novel contribution.

it hardcore struggles from trying to be evaluatively unopinionated on forms of poly while simultaneously being explicitly normative, and the actual understanding and insights disappoint real hard as a result.

it frequently lapses into an descriptions of relationships that would make even the most shallow "relationship anarchist" roll their eyes. a predictable failure mode of trying to speak to such a breadth of relationship models, its kinda just embarrassing for the philosophically sensitive ones.

a lot of the situations presented in the book are like impossible to sympathize with skissue shit, like yea ik you're trying not to induce shame or feelings of not being good enough but idk vro sometimes you just gotta fix ur shit and get gud

the whole thing suffers from that-one-friend-thats-too-woke syndrome and i feel like i'm listening to a zillenial-coded therapy speak tiktok

there's a bunch of authenticity and truth and ontology bullshit but that kinda goes without saying we're playing psychology

she introduces an ungodly amount of unhelpful distinctions that are extremely uncomfortable and the thought of anyone actually using them in their relationships is actively repulsive. and even the ones where i could *maybe* see something salvageable, i really think you'd be better off without the

concepts altogether. idk maybe it's helpful scaffolding for some but you gotta throw that shit away asap pls. and like half this shit i kinda look down on you if the scaffolding is necessary for you in the first place.

honestly i just wasn't the audience. it's very generalist and cursory and not rigorous at all. the last two thirds was pretty focused on practical advice for circumstances i would never find myself in because i'm not like 50 years old with mono brain worms

oh yea i figured that out a while back

ah fuck

thanks ollie i can always count on you

you're gonna likebot me now right

wow you're so trans and anorexic,, that must be *so* hard for you

extended cut

we need to get you a pds light switch

#2 is calling your name…

i love your highlights

me when i access a restricted patient chart

turns out all it took for me to be a sabrina carpenter fan was nightcore and anime thumbnails

men’s 5 in 1 shampoo ass idea

fat fuck

alt text backfill so i never lose this guy

you wouldn’t get it…

suuper feel that. in some ways it’s my best, in many other ways it’s my worst. low time-investment recurring meet-ups with an easy escape option in a safe environment keep the stress low, but the stars do kind of have to align. sometimes i can push myself for a duration and it can still be worth it

you’re right to call it out as an oddity because i do often struggle with irl very significantly (and of course, the list is intentionally contextually under-specified),

but i think the idea i was going for is that, if circumstances are propitious (big if), there is an unmatched degree of comfort and interactive capacity available, and that communication is less bound by linguistic constraints.

irl is also able to have very drastic immediate influence, like sometimes you just need a hug yknow?

but yea usually i can get tired very quickly from excessive irl exposure, so its ranking is really inflated by its peaks and not so much its perpetual exercise. whereas async low-pressure communication gets ranked high for its comfortability and non-imposition

45min kasey pow-wows 3 times a week are this lovely irl sweet spot hehe