comfy all around

also hbd (there have been so many lately)

i’m well aware 😭

big fan of cbz files

i know comic book archives aren’t their own format but they’ve just got aura

i set the temp to like 60F but idk if it ever gets there

lol one of the first things i did was write a script to convert her evil spotify playlists into usable youtube guys

sam changed his pfp again

don’t look at the quoted thread btw thanks

whoops almost forgot to send them pdsls.dev/at://did:plc... (most of them are subsequent seasons so it's likely just a difference in convention)

yay i had a fun day, i love my friends

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thanks for saving my puppy from a burning building and paying off my student loans and donating both your kidneys to those orphans

yea fair enough

okay so i tried discover

meeeeow btw, purr even

yea but your soul craves another alt

aly.rat.mom incoming

it’s a mushroom 🍄

she’s just been hunched over the whole time and nobody noticed

prolly a couple dozen more

well its completely accurate, with the caveat that the alt is run by one of taylor's ace alters

i did not realize sabrina carpenter and taylor swift were the same person until today

another day of skylights terrorism complete (i imported my anilist entries)

(would be more but tmdb didn't have everyting)

so please... don't cut the ribbon so easily.

Wh- Why did you do that!? Eh? Well. Didn't you like this ribbon? We can just tie it again. But... But it wouldn't return to the way it was before. Isn't that okay? Even if it's not the same... Even if it looks different, isn't that interesting too? And... it's not like the color will change.

using “mononormative” over “amatonormative” is kinda a red flag tbh

like yeah they aren’t the same thing, there’s a venn diagram here, but that’s kinda my point. loveless monosexual expectations are excluded but i’m okay with that because the scoping is all wrong in the first place

like yea you can try and stretch the former to cover the latter’s bases but it’s just really missing the crux of the issue, and it lends itself to inattentiveness to the ways in which poly folks reproduce the same logics

okay so i read the 'polysecure' book just for fun and it's unfortunately exactly what i anticipated it would be

the attachment theory stuff is fine and good, even neat sometimes when contextualized to non-monog, but at the end of the day it's still like pop psych attachment theory lol. that's easily the book at it's best tbh, and it's also the least novel contribution.

it hardcore struggles from trying to be evaluatively unopinionated on forms of poly while simultaneously being explicitly normative, and the actual understanding and insights disappoint real hard as a result.

it frequently lapses into an descriptions of relationships that would make even the most shallow "relationship anarchist" roll their eyes. a predictable failure mode of trying to speak to such a breadth of relationship models, its kinda just embarrassing for the philosophically sensitive ones.

a lot of the situations presented in the book are like impossible to sympathize with skissue shit, like yea ik you're trying not to induce shame or feelings of not being good enough but idk vro sometimes you just gotta fix ur shit and get gud

the whole thing suffers from that-one-friend-thats-too-woke syndrome and i feel like i'm listening to a zillenial-coded therapy speak tiktok

there's a bunch of authenticity and truth and ontology bullshit but that kinda goes without saying we're playing psychology

she introduces an ungodly amount of unhelpful distinctions that are extremely uncomfortable and the thought of anyone actually using them in their relationships is actively repulsive. and even the ones where i could *maybe* see something salvageable, i really think you'd be better off without the

concepts altogether. idk maybe it's helpful scaffolding for some but you gotta throw that shit away asap pls. and like half this shit i kinda look down on you if the scaffolding is necessary for you in the first place.

honestly i just wasn't the audience. it's very generalist and cursory and not rigorous at all. the last two thirds was pretty focused on practical advice for circumstances i would never find myself in because i'm not like 50 years old with mono brain worms

oh yea i figured that out a while back

ah fuck

thanks ollie i can always count on you

you're gonna likebot me now right

wow you're so trans and anorexic,, that must be *so* hard for you

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we need to get you a pds light switch

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