it’s been dunked on plenty already but this is just really stupid. entirely devoid of real analysis, it’s just more “inequality le bad” and “poly people can be unhappy sometimes :o”
wow nice you figured out that authenticity is stupid, and that patriarchal husbands are pieces of shit. slow clap for the genius please. no differentiation of different styles of poly, and not even significant analysis of who the “elite” is supposed to comprise
even if polyamory was just a way for the ruling class to “have their cake and eat it too”, why is this bad? and it’s hilarious how we get a token disabled poly throwaway hero as an example at the end too - a better subtitle for this article would have been “poor good rich bad”
i’m all here for political critiques of polyamory, one of my fav articles is “Polyamory is Gay Marriage for Straight People”. but that’s because they’re not morons and actually engage in the subject matter with differentiation, specificity, and proper categorial analysis
oh i should also be clear that it seems like Molly’s relationships both in and out of her marriage were unfulfilling, but again this doesn’t speak much to anything and can be entirely explained through bog standard feminist analysis. “therapeutic libertarianism” is not an enlightening concept
also worth reminding ourselves that there are other ways to be critical of the ideals espoused by vulgar polyamory: Freedom as absence of constraints is perhaps a reasonable aspiration for slaves, but not for others.
Nietzsche, Beyond Good and Evil, § 260.
obviously this is not to say that constraints are good categorically, or an endorsement of monog-patriarchal relationship norms by any means. what it does mean is that too fanatical a focus on freedom indicates a rather naive and immature stage of poly. better conditions give rise to higher ideals.
i have ambivalent and melancholy associations with early tøp and walking around my home town in autumn. i feel small today so it’s fitting i’m drawn to them right now.
it just takes a lot of focus and energy and effort for me to pull off and i’m not really benefitting from it. lol i’ve had to put it on my to do list and schedule it out like a chore
in bed with her oscillating between dream sleep and marginally awake and i can’t tell if im talking to the real girl or dream girl at any given moment. and then i realize its been dream girl the whole time and ive just been talking to myself
yesterday i got three audible books. downloaded, de-drm’ed, started torrents, and then promptly changed tasks instead of actually listening to them =v=
- equality sux
- “male privilege” is a confused and analytically bankrupt reformist concept
- the whole conversation is abstracted so far that it’s unclear what we’re even speaking in reference to, which is fantastic bc everyone can project their own meaning and keep discourse going :D
it’s also fascinating how de-personalized the chart is. it’s as if the man and woman have no relation to one another, and this abstract patriarchy has arbitrarily chosen to make women worse off. through what means? who knows!
angrily muttering “kill yourself” to the gas pump that started playing an advertisement at me before realizing the person that just got out of their car 2 feet from me might think it’s directed at them
6/
Suffering is not an evil in itself; it becomes evil only when it is not endured consciously or when it exceeds our capacities for comprehension or endurance.
-N