been looking to earring stuff and i think it would be really cute but also really does not seem like my thing. flesh scary and risk of infection or gross wtf fuck fuck. i know could go to a certified tattoo shop or something but bruh i cant its too much

id have to know a bunch about types of metal and infection and healing and blah blah cant be bothered fuck it not worth scary awful gross

that is very idealistic maybe and maybe even infantilizing/paternalistic like here look at my great ideas they come from a book so it would def depend on how it was carried out but idk thats like a compelling thing for me that i could demonstrate where my ideas are coming from

and be critiqued as to how im living up to them

and i think if the "capability" part is incorporated here then a lot of cool shit can happen. like

the co-determination need non be actualized! but the capability is there which leaves plenty of room for flexible arrangements. that shit is so fucking cool

if i ever had kids and had a disagreement with them I would love to like sit down and explain where I'm getting my ideas from so then they can be like "oh i see where youre coming from but I interpret this concept differently" or like "this framework falls short here" or w/e

but i think like even asking the question fleshes out the structure of the interaction while leaving room for things to be non-hierarchical. like this seems like a co-determined choice

SPEAKING OF WHICH the definition of "the capability to co-determine" as a definition of autonomy is fucking fantastic (from Screw Consent)

this vid was p good overall, obv had some funky stuff too but one cool thing was asking kid "Hey do you wanna do x thing/event?" If yes, "Do you want me to 'force' you to go if you decide you don't feel like it in the moment?" https://youtu.be/Q-tiTTvkHpw

If yes, next morning "Did you like that I 'forced' you to go?" like very interesting way to approach things and the temporality of decision-making definitely depends on what "force" means here, and i dont even think dr k was saying like physically force maybe just extra pressure

feeling really gross and uncomfy rn and i feel like it has a lot of causes and that is frustrating. maybe just restless bc i dont feel like i can do anything, but idk

school work bad and brain is really done. leisure reading is out for same reason. anime/manga really not feeling up to gender stuff or really diving in and enjoying a story. netflix trash ive already filled up on, twitter/youtube make me sad and ive been trying to avoid,

dont feel up to doing chores/cleaning and theres not much to do anyway, video games ive tried to avoid but playing ow rn and its fine enough ig, music meh, eating sucks and ive already done enough, showered and nothing feels better, really just trapped feeling ._.

not feeling social, not feeling up to run, dont feel like grooming or sexy stuff, tried cubing for a bit zz, REALLY dont feel like shopping fuck that, and thats basically an exhuastive list of every activity i do

im so fucking uncomfortable rn i cant rest this fucking sucks

figuring out shopping stuff is fucking terrible i hate it i hate it i hate it booooooo fuck this

specifically making a christmas list for myself i dont want anything leave me aloneenlfkajds;lkfj reeeee

idk i dont really feel up to much, not much brings me joy, i guess im feeling a bit depressed. maybe im just a little more down than normal but idk. i dont really feel like living but dying is too much too. wishing for lack of experience maybe but not the process to get there

this sucks

and when these happen it feels like theres nothing to really look forward to in life like anything i do will just bring me pain and the rest of my existence will just be trying to limit the bad feelings

i dont have anything i really aspire to be and most of the joy i feel is weird and fleeting and just not worth the pain on the other side.

i dont want to think about the problems of the world, i dont want to fight, i dont want to interact, i sometimes think i want to go "home", where home isnt like a place but is more like a content state of mind, but that doesn't last long.

idk if its anxiety or what but i go through these spouts where the thought of human interaction is actually sickening and i just never want to see anyone ever again. its really uncomfortable knowing that ill have to continue on and i desperately want to avoid it

"productivity" hell i fucking hate this shit, I'm so tired of this shit

i tried putting myself out a lot recently and they haven't gone super great

i know i cant judge things just from outcome but its just super draining and frustrating and it feels like for no point

im not even sure why i was doing that. i kinda really just wanna chill rn and im really overwhelmed even tho basically nothing is going on.

going to PA class, talking to PA TA, talking to PA classmates (req), going to philos prof meeting, talking to philos prof, going to PS class, talking to PS classmates (req), ren dm, ryno dm, muz dm, its just all way too much

it really feels like a lot and i just don't feel like i can rest. there is no rest. everything feels like im on the clock. life just keeps moving and i can't stop it.

im really tired w social interaction stuff

really like this, and the point about using "kids" not "children" is interesting https://theanarchistlibrary.org/library/i-an-ok-ta-chai-youth-liberation

which i mean they messaged me after a bit saying they finished jerking off so ig maybe they were just busy

overall just a sort of an odd series of interactions that i dont know how to make sense of lol

had really odd interaction with ryno lol... is this how girls feel receiving horny texts? he sent me 2 nudes w little to no context whatsoever lol

i mean they weren't exactly unwanted? like hes really cute and hot but i def wasnt really ready or expecting, didnt really know what to do with. and hes pretty bad at convo stuff in general so it was hard to continue conversations after them (sent at 2 separate times)

like i feel like i could have handled if it was all horny talk but it was this weird like drop pics and then give the bare minimum interaction responses

Like she was trying too I think I just really struggled bc of the authority gap, always makes me so uncomfy

Also bc the work I was talking about had better concepts than her required book that we’ve spent 2 weeks on so maybe it felt like I was attacking her choices and she had to play defense

i was like developmentally stagnant for a long time in my youth, like totally unaware of a lot of really important shit. parents kept shit, friends with similar (like scott) I just really didn't have very much interaction with real stuff.

tbh prob why im so into youth lib on an emotional level

Oh also I talked to ren (MuZhoka’s romantic/sexual interest) last night and she’s super cool. She posted this as a part of her daily Instagram update post thing. Very cute very fun

Heading in to a meeting with prof to talk about book I read. P out of character but idk I thought it might be fun. Also the book is about sex and sometimes she feels a little puritanical so we’ll see. I will update after

Fk I feel like I ended awk and didn’t get to say what I really wanted to fk me

something i wanna reflect on more later is about the time gail taught me how media criticism is important not just within the world that has been constructed, but also the choices that the writers make to put characters in certain situations

There were only 16 people today in class and it was pretty wild how much more comfortable I was speaking. Still awkward and weird and uncomfy but like it def changes my personality

lol but sizes that go "S" "M" "L" are gonna be a problem i think

guy who starts hrt so they can buy bralettes that fit

bruh like this. is so fucking cute https://www.ae.com/us/en/p/aerie/bralettes/bra-tops/aerie-holiday-best-lace-waffle-longline-bralette/2694_3408_584?menu=cat4840006

i wish kyouko had her hair colored darker to reflect it being brown. struggling to vibe gender w for p sure that exclusive reason