My personality is so variable, I hate how much I change depending on social environment

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:( I feel like nothing is interesting to me rn. no games, no videos, no more school work (im doing enough). Idk, I think maybe I want social interaction (specifically from ryna or other ppl from maya's server) but the server is down so yea idk

like i just miss interacting with people my ageish - its just such a different experience. hopefully this new class can sorta provide that? but its like not at all the interaction i think im craving

idk i feel tired and burnt out but also restless, i dont know what to do. I dont feel like i can relax and i feel like things are lacking

like fuck fuck fuck i hate being the center of attention even if i have something to say like ugh fuck that shit

so uncomfortable

i despise social interaction so much

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I don't wanna disturb anyone or anything, i just wanna live my life

there can be benefits to social stuff but holy shit the downsides are like always there and are fucking brutal

and like i need more self confidence absolutely but at the same time like .,askdfnlk.akjshf;lkajs;dflkjas;pdflkj

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Idk obv it’s pretty silly like it’s minecraft, it’s just social interaction stuff is weird and I don’t often interact with people. Another thing is like maybe I’m just getting caught up in being around ppl with similar values, interests etc

Even joining the server and continually playing it is pretty odd for me, idk. Tons of considerations and stuff idk. Im tired,

Ok I’ve gotta type some stuff out bc I’m kinda confused and I can’t sleep. So yesterday and today I’ve been playing on FemBoyMaths’ minecraft server they just started, and there’s a lot of weird social things about myself I’ve noticed n stuff because of it, idk how to make sense

But the biggest thing was my interaction today with someone named Ryna, idk confusing and odd and exciting. My last tweet was some of our first interaction, and it wasn’t weird like it might seem out of context. He’s super cool and also like I’m kinda crushing?

Idk what to think about that and I’m way too tired to make sense of it. Like there are so many things. First personality boy crush, he’s older (23), aromantic/greyromantic things, he’s good at like talking and making first move thing and that’s comfy for me

genuinely the most gender affirming interaction ive had 🥰

went for a walk/run today :) i cant run very long but i went on and off. very hot

Like I probably shouldn’t be that reliant on her, not now or ever, but ig it’s also hard to disaggregate her being my only support system and her being the one I’ve wronged. Like if she didn’t forgive me? I’d still have to move on lol

Not to say that I wouldn’t take it to heart, just like I can’t live my life forever considering myself a bad person. A person that did plenty of bad things to someone over the course of years? Absolutely. The only model I’ve seen for really coming to terms with that type of thing

Is Destiny, and I think that’s a bit too toxic masc for my style and not enough recognition of wrong, downplays too much.

Lol I kinda realized I’ve shifted to intellectualizing, probbaly not super useful for emotional progress. Idk. I’ve typed enough ig. I still miss her, and I still feel something similar to pain? Maybe like there’s something lacking that I normally have? But that’s not it.

Like that would make sense, but that’s not how I really feel I guess. I think im done now tho

I still don’t think I have a completely coherent approach to relationship post-mortems, and for instance my understanding of my relationship with Sydney bothered Gail a lot. This is pretty different tho, I was more of the “victim” with S, and I broke up with her.

With Gail, I’m obviously still formulating my thoughts but I feel as I was for more manipulative/hurtful/abusive. It’s just a way different dynamic to make sense of. I’m just flooded with memories where I acted totally shit lol, it sucks.

Like people make mistakes, and it’s okay to admit I fucked up. I’m not sure if I’ve totally internalized the “it’s okay” part, and I may feel like I need external validation of that, particularly from Gail, but that seems super questionable.

Just sorta chillin alone in apartment doing summer courses. Don’t get me wrong, I love that! Just maybe not super conducive for switching my life up in a meaningful and healthy way to move on properly.

And yet again, I could just be rushing it! It’s been four months out of a 4 plus year relationship like I think it’s probably reasonable for me to be feeling uneasy here and there. Obviously I won’t and don’t want to ever truly “move on”, because it’s an important portion

Of my life, like unbelievably so. My entire personality got flipped on its head multiple times, in no small part due to her. I don’t mean to look back with rose colored glasses though, there was a lot of messy and gross stuff, but that stuff was and is influential too mr too.

But I also know that a lot of that success path is defined by some really toxic trash capitalist dogma so fuck that lol, it’s still frustrating and embarrassing to deal with people that have that shit internalized (most people yay)

I just don’t want my ability to emotionally move on when the time and space is right to be hindered by my justifiable lack of progress in the economic sense. I suppose a big part is that I don’t have much to move on to, yknow?

Not to diminish the relationships I’m in, but they’re just…. Different than would be helpful in this way. I keep thinking about convos I would have with gail if I could, idk if that’s healthy. Closure is obv fake, it doesn’t work like that.

However, I still think it would be nice at some point. Maybe naive or unhealthy, I’m not sure. I do worry a bit about the pace of my emotional progress, and feel a bit of embarrassment in general about yknow my sort of pace of “growing up”

Continuing to grapple with allowing myself to feel things and moving on. I don’t want to dwell too much maybe? But I definitely don’t want to suppress. I honestly think a huge part of me lacking that “”closure”” is not having someone I consider a true peer to talk to.

I have a serious anxiety problem lol. I don’t know what to do about that. I feel like it’s not even about learning intelligent ways to approach and think about things more clearly, it’s just an instant emotional reaction. Feels out of control and can mess me up for a bit :/

It can feel like I'm not moving on properly, and I feel like me being inside all the time and not interacting with anyone else makes that worse. It really bothers me how I now lack people to critically engage with, like I could bounce ideas off with gail for hours and it was

probably my favorite thing to do. Idk she was like the only person I had "philosophy" discussions with, idk if thats because I already trusted her and felt like I could be honest? And like I respected her ability to think and challenge me, it was really cool.

Idk, I do really miss that, and I do really miss her. I'm not sure if thats compatible with moving on, but I'd like to think that it is. Like missing someone and the role they played in your life without necessarily wanting it back or letting it get in your way.

it would be nice to have a therapist maybe lol

I spent a bunch of time today looking at Filipino stuff and idk how really to feel about it. Maybe its just guilt from not caring earlier or something. It does a little bit worry me how much I'm still affected by her, like worried I'm not getting over things. But if I take a

step back and think about things, I think that it makes sense and is a good thing or at least neutral. Like she was obviously a super big part of my life and my growing up, of course I'm going to be impacted by that. I don't need to feel shame about that.

god i wish i could talk with gail about this https://x.com/POCculture/status/1400905443111673857

like there are so many things going on -name slang for genitals?? -already existing Filipino characters that are more faithful to their culture? -WHY CAPTAIN AMERICA OF ALL THINGS WTF WE LITERALLY COLONIZED THEM???????

like representation is super cool and if it means that more people will be able to see themselves thats fucking awesome, I just wish it was maybe done well. and its totally possible im off base and its a non-issue (im white and don't speak the language, dont know the culture)

Lol holy shit I gained 15 pounds in less 45 days (160 now) what the fuck

I feel like shit lol, I think I’m gonna track for a bit idk. This blows

Kyler eat normally challenge (impossible)

I can't handle talking and being seen and shit right now I just want to chill out and listen i fucking hate this shit fuck fuck man