she's literally a lyrical genius:
You used a fork once
It turns out forks are fuckin' everywhere
There’s no hiding from the thought of us
I got ways to find you anywhere
www.youtube.com/watch?v=_odQ...
Wh- Why did you do that!?
Eh? Well.
Didn't you like this ribbon?
We can just tie it again.
But... But it wouldn't return to the way it was before.
Isn't that okay? Even if it's not the same... Even if it looks different, isn't that interesting too? And... it's not like the color will change.
like yeah they aren’t the same thing, there’s a venn diagram here, but that’s kinda my point. loveless monosexual expectations are excluded but i’m okay with that because the scoping is all wrong in the first place
like yea you can try and stretch the former to cover the latter’s bases but it’s just really missing the crux of the issue, and it lends itself to inattentiveness to the ways in which poly folks reproduce the same logics
she introduces an ungodly amount of unhelpful distinctions that are extremely uncomfortable and the thought of anyone actually using them in their relationships is actively repulsive. and even the ones where i could *maybe* see something salvageable, i really think you'd be better off without the
concepts altogether. idk maybe it's helpful scaffolding for some but you gotta throw that shit away asap pls. and like half this shit i kinda look down on you if the scaffolding is necessary for you in the first place.
honestly i just wasn't the audience. it's very generalist and cursory and not rigorous at all. the last two thirds was pretty focused on practical advice for circumstances i would never find myself in because i'm not like 50 years old with mono brain worms