Grades are coercive and oppressive and antithetical to true learning, and trying to include psychic rewards as an incentive just serves to entrench and internalize the problem

I understand coming from good place and unreasonable blah blah, this is more just for me to document and express how that comment made me feel lol

Normally I use :) genuinely but in this case it was pretty clear it was an important thing to him to really express proud of your type stuff

Toward the Destruction of Schooling - Jan D. Matthews LITERALLY THE BEST FUCKING RESOURCE FOR SCHOOL ABOLITION. VERY SHORT, VERY POWERFUL

beautifully written and the footnotes give fantastic footnotes for followup materials. really really really exciting. so so so powerful, definitely the best simple explainer ive come across. seriously so great and incorporates so many fantastic things incl anti-work and RA

also reading this in class is great lol, glad i brought my laptop

my scar is super super flat now, still discolored extra dark from the shot, but i think that it continues to go away. nice :)

Even if being a monolith was something to be desired, how do you think change occurs? Everyone is just supposed to agree, until they all simultaneously agree on a new thing? Or is it just that the org shouldn’t take a stance but individuals can? Why wouldn’t the same criticism

Apply to individual deviation? So weird gross

So much going on here. expecting politicians to not deviate for power or capital, but I mean at least they’re showing their dissatisfaction with that. Hilarious that the response to that is to say “get back in line” lol

Thus, in 1876, at the IWMA (Federalist) Berne Congress, Malatesta declared that in spite of the devotion and respect that linked his followers to Bakunin, they were not 'Bakuninists', firstly because 'we do not share all the practical and theoretical ideas of Bakunin', and

secondly and above all because 'we follow ideas, not men; because we reject the habit of incarnating a principle in a man, a habit which is worthy of political parties but completely incompatible with the tendencies of modern socialism" - Aspects of International Socialism, Haupt

Also this acc started a year ago and I’ve tweeted 1345 tweets to myself, FeelsGoodMan

How sad is it that I’ll never read them back lmao, it’s all here if I wanted but the search feature on Twitter sucks and it’s super time consuming. Maybe when I’m a bunch older it would be interesting, but I’d def want an external tool thing, the only ones I’m familiar with cost$

I cannot explain how much influence this video has had in shaping my self identity, sexuality, so much lol https://youtu.be/DUMx9HsJnZs

It’s not even especially perfectly accurate, but I was exposed to it at the right enough time and I promise you it had an unreasonable influence on my development

Prolly the best destiny content all time imo

I could be her nice chill agoraphobic boyfriend (cute+need). So I think I already had those ideas floating around for a bit, but those specific applications and proposals had me think a lot more about possibilities I’d be comfortable with

Then with further reflection and exploration I found relationship anarchy and found it to be super compelling and less than a year later I’m reading malatesta anthologies - so thanks for coming to my Ted talk on how to radicalize the libs, just do what I did :P

When I went for a walk yesterday I was really struggling but really desiring to think this stuff through, and convos today helped me a bunch so yay, I feel glad (I typed “content” out but didn’t quite fit, ig not fully at peace with things but still pretty good overall

Next thing was sex. She went through a lot of questioning around the end of our relationship around sex, and I’m not sure how much of that might have been to 1) previous negative emotions about sex from early relationship contexts 2) feeling not as close in our relationship

3) maybe somewhere on asexual spectrum. Either way, talking through that and being exposed changed my understanding of relationships in practice, and allowed me to decouple sex from romance. This combined with un-deified “love” leading me to question the solid grounding of

“Romance” (+personal aro questioning [causality undetermined]) laid the groundwork for RA disposition. During breakup, I proposed (knowing full well she wouldn’t accept) that I’d be fine if she dated other people, or had different people to take her on walks for example, and that

Wanted to see her when I could focus on her, and she could focus on me. Other stuff was needlessly stressful, and my intense anxiety def didn’t help

Side note: pretty wild how much my anxiety has shifted relatively recently, I wonder how much is due to pandemic vs breakup. Intuition feels like post breakup was super important. Anyway back to it

So that separation of time def created a whole new vibe to the relationship, and I don’t think she really liked it that much. But it exposed me to new ways of having a relationship with someone, even if that ended up being dysfunctional for us 2 specifically.

Were young and far away missing vibes).

And something I just thought of that was more the most recent era of like college stuff and end of relationship stuff: Parties Sex Breakup itself and dealbreakers

First thing is like I was never really interested in partying/drinking stuff. I would chill w Meg and her while they drank sometimes, but that was mostly a proximity thing and it was very low key

In college, I was totally uninterested in going to parties and also seeing her friends at all. It was just p overwhelming and unnecessary for me. But it also meant that it created this pretty big divide between us and how our time was spent. I was totally cool with this, and just

Next thing was learning about jealousy. I don’t know what my disposition was like about jealousy prior to Gail, but she had lots of guy friends and I think that was really cool for me (working on heteronormative assumptions) to fix a lot of biases most ppl deal with

I still remember having certain issues with her guy friends but often I think that had to deal with their behavior, which was often coming onto her when she was not interested. There’s always a risk of me understating jealous motivations, but it honestly feels like a lot of it

Was discomfort for her discomfort and not wanting her to have to deal with stuff. Either way I think I quickly got over any jealousy type memes towards men, and subsequently towards relationships in general

There was a case when she went to Europe, but it was similarly a case of a guy coming onto her that she was uncomfy w, and I think I was more frustrated that she wasn’t transparent (but tbf she said she was struggling with making sense of his advances and how to handle and we

Next things are things I learned from/with gail, and were brought up today when talking w parents

1st was my broad use of love. She would tell friends all the time she loved them, including me, and it always felt really nice and warm. Removing that word from a pedastal was super important to me, and continues to be super powerful conception for me to make sense of things

Especially considering the weird shit w Sydney and “I don’t L O V E you I just L O V you” LOL dank memes

And time for the fault of no one, and it’s nice to have a space that feels like relaxing and safe. Gail was always p sketch on the idea but I always had it in mind when thinking about future cohabitation

That is to say I found variable living situations appealing, and that just because there are norms around relationships doesn’t mean you must conform.

Ok so for beds, I think I was exposed to this idea early, maybe middle school or high school, and I just loved it. Just bc you live w a “romantic” “partner” doesn’t mean you have to share a bed/room always, or that not sharing means uoure fighting. Sometimes you just need space

Also I had some sugar today and holy shit my heart went wild. Body def isn’t used to lol

But yeah decided to do it so we could talk about getting “girls clothes” so idk we’ll see where that goes

Overall confused but supportive enough, live and let live “I don’t want to see you hurt” cringe lib shit but it’s fine

Had long talk about RA

Mom particularly mortified about me dating a man !! Spooky

Jokes on you mom I’m not “dating” anyone :P

Too much, so tired

Also came out to parents kinda as agender and pan and relationship anarchist